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Should one strive to show concern for friends, aquaintences, co-workers, and/or strangers? An example and possible context: I just started a new job where an employee had recently taken leave to undergo cancer treatment. A few days after I started, our boss called us into a conference room and broke the news that the individual has succumb to the disease. I was obviously detached from the situation emotionally, as I never met the person who had died, however the entire office was somber for the rest of the week. In this case, the individual was a stranger, and I wasn't sure if showing concern for the person's family was appropriate on my part.
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"Concern" is an emotion. Emotions, as I've read on this site, are amoral. It depends on the context of the situation in which you feel emotions. If you see a co-worker that works hard and honestly, then I suppose you should feel concern if misfortune falls upon him/her. However, if you express concern for a co-worker who doesn't work hard and basically slacks all day, then it would be immoral--a compromise on your values--to feel bad or concerned for him. Personally, I'd feel concerned about WHY he was slacking on the job. But I guess that wouldn't be my business. It depends on the situation.
Given that emotion is an automatic response to value judgments and here the stranger is of no value to you; I see the question as "Should I fake my emotions to fit in?"
What's appropriate here is respect for others' grief. It would be obnoxious for you to act boisterously amidst a team of grieving coworkers.
No, you should not feign concern for the departed, but you should treat your coworkers respectfully. You might not wish to bond with your coworkers in their grief, but, on the other hand, you might make a friend or two by allowing a coworker to bend your ear a bit about how he feels.
Don't fake anything. Just treat people justly.