Friends are involved with other people.
My number one piece of advice: do fun stuff that involves other people. Social activities are key. Making friends is not all about talking to people and bowling them over with your erudition; it's about sharing experiences.
Take a dance class -- partners rotate, usually, and you'll meet lots of people without even trying. Go on a group hike or canoe trip or rafting trip. Do things you think might be fun, and which happen to involve other people. It will then be hard to not meet people you might like. Friendship grows out of having a shared goal, and discovering people you work well with.
Try some kind of casual sport, like volleyball, or ultimate Frisbee. Shared goal, and shared success: friendship!
Go on a Meetup. Listen hard to everyone, and talk to the people who say things you really find interesting. Don't feign interest. The quiet person who sometimes says something smart is much more valuable than someone who speaks because he feels it is expected of him.
In the beginning, just hang out with groups. Don't worry about singling out best friends. Just get to know people. Good friendships will grow out of that.
answered May 21 '12 at 09:40
John Paquette ♦